So thanks to a certain TV show’s fandom and their amazing ability to sniff out subtext, a long-standing issue has been brought right into the spotlight. I’m positive homophobia has been being battled in spotlights elsewhere before, but it has never really been brought to my attention. “It doesn’t bother me, I’m not adding to the problem, why should I care?” I thought that by not being homophobic, I was pretty much exempt from being a driving force in homophobia and advocating inequality, but I was wrong. I was adding to the problem. I was adding to the problem of homophobia and inequality without even knowing it.
By labeling people.
When I realized this, it got me thinking. How many people thought the same thing as me? How many people thought that if they accepted or even merely tolerated anyone who didn’t identify as “straight” that they were not adding to the problem? Probably a lot. If you’re sitting there reading this and thinking you may have been adding to the problem by accepting/tolerating in the same way I was, then this is probably perfect for you. For a long time now I’ve wondered where the root of all this hatred comes from, and I think I’ve found it. It was probably very obvious and I was just really oblivious because it wasn’t something I could get myself to care about, but the fact remains that I know it now.
By labeling someone, even if you don’t mean to, you’re basically doing them a disservice. You’re placing them into a group that makes it easier to generalize them. I can’t even begin to remember all the times that I’ve seen it happen, even accidentally. So what I want to do about it is to try to start the motion of dropping labels. No small task, for sure. It’ll almost definitely take longer than my lifetime for any noticeable difference to appear, but the point is the sooner it starts the better.
So, just try to stop labeling people. Don’t fret yourself over whether or not someone is straight. Don’t spend precious moments of your comparatively short life wondering if a girl you know is a feminist. Don’t keep yourself up at night trying to explain away why your friend doesn’t identify under gender binaries. Don’t worry about it. If they’re not hurting anyone, then they’re not your problem!
I’m not saying you have to try to stop labeling people this way cold turkey. I’m aware that, for some people, this is like grabbing the edge of the table they place all their thoughts on and flipping it over. I’m aware that it is probably deeply ingrained into the minds of people that labeling other people is just how they are better able to understand them. I know, I do it too and I probably will for a long time. Like I said, it will probably take far longer than my natural life for there to be even a little difference, but if we start now then that is less time between now and that happening than if we started later.
So, slowly but surely, I will begin to strike the need to make assumptions and jump to conclusions and labels from my mind, and I hope more people will join me. Stopping labeling outright might be next to impossible. So, rather than labeling people under something that is so easily generalized such as “homosexual” or the like, perhaps we can instead label these people as what they really are.
I’m certain that you’ve been receiving many messages about your forcible removal of the Mathematical video that suggests a possible romance between Marceline and Princess Bubblegum from your show, Adventure Time. While I’m here to tell you that it was wrong to do such a thing, I’m here to tell you something else.
This is under bullying because your network is bullying others. By telling us that that video, which merely sought to open a forum for discussion on possible outcomes of relationships, had to be removed because it contained possible romances between two ladies, you are telling all of your viewers that it is not okay to be gay.
You are telling lots of little kids who are potentially feeling out of place themselves that they should feel even more out of place. You are telling them that they will never lead a wholesome lifestyle. They will never be romantically compatible with their friends like boys and girls can be.
You are doing nothing short of bullying these children and bullying many adult and teen viewers who enjoy your network.
I, myself, have grown up enjoying cartoon network. I have been there since before boomerang, sneaking out of my bedroom to watch Scooby do or Johnny Bravo in the wee hours of the morning.
When I was bullied in school, I could come home and curl up in front of the television, certain that Cartoon Network would have something for me to watch.
But then, as I grew up and I realized that I liked girls, I became more and more distraught by your programming. Why did Sailor Uranus and Sailor Neptune have to be cousins instead of girlfriends? Why, when two characters were so far removed from the sexual, did they have to change who they were?
You told me when I was little, when I needed the reassurance of your programming most, that I would never be able to love someone unless that someone was a male. Your shows told me over and over that there was no one like me in the whole world, and that I should sacrifice who I am and was to be like the characters you showed me were “normal”.
Since then, the forum has been opened and it has come to light in many communities- not just the gay ones- that kids and teens are bullied mercilessly for their homosexuality, bisexuality, or any other kind of sexuality but heterosexuality. It has come to light that this drives many children to suicide. Many children and teens who loved your cartoons, but never had any characters to show them that they were normal. To show them they could be loved.
Stop the bullying, Cartoon Network. It’s probably one of the best, most enormous gestures and impacts you could make on children everywhere to let discussions like this happen.
Nobody is saying that you have to change their relationship. We just want you to know that we appreciated what it could mean and we appreciated the fact that two female characters could be close enough to even be thought of as possibly romantic.
So please, stop the censorship. Stop the bullying.
i love you………
please tell me you actually sent this to cartoon network and didn’t just post it on tumblr please because this is so great PLEASE
A friend of mine who wishes to remain anonymous, but used to work at Cartoon Network, is telling me that it’s very important that we as a fandom mobilize and don’t let them act like this episode never aired. The huge outpouring of support for a possible lesbian pairing terrified…
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For reference to wigs, my head circumference is 22.5”.
Same as above. Price is a bit higher since I’m trying to sell this WITH the matching pigtails.
Naoto Hat + Cog&Marc Dark Blue Wig - $23 + $2 shipping
Wig is from Cog&Marc on eBay, so the cap is average to small. All I did was trim the bangs. I bought and modified the hat and painted the belt. The wig AND hat on together are kind of snug, so this would be better if you had my head size or a bit smaller.
Cog&Marc Dark Blue Wig - $14 + $2 shipping
Same as above. This is a really scruffy wig. I’d be cautious with heat-styling, it’s definitely do-able, but I haven’t exposed this wig to much.
Larger wig cap, ideal for lads who want to cosplay Dave. Sides are trimmed to be blockier like Dave’s sideburns. Back is choppy and embarassing, just how Bro would cut it. The bangs require a deal of heat and hairspray to stay up. You can get creative with them, though.
Really cute, thick wig. Fit my head comfortably, could go a bit bigger. Could use some re-styling and re-curling any way you want it.
Coral Orange Wig - $16 + $2 shipping
I bought this from another cosplayer and never wore it or styled it. It’s really soft and pretty, it’s just not flattering on my round head! The cap size is comfortable for my head size, though, just not the shape. This would be ideal for more ovular head shapes. The bangs are long so you can style those to your liking.
This is in need of some styling. I trimmed the layers to even them out in the back and trimmed the bangs only slightly and then gently heat-straightened some of it. Never got around to using it or re-curling it. Another wig to use caution with when heat-styling.